There’s a special relationship between big sisters and little brothers. It seems that big sisters tend to “mother” their little brothers and little brothers often seek their big sister’s approval. But it’s much more than that. There’s a special love that they share that’s on a psychic or spiritual level. I’ve been fortunate enough to have witnessed this dynamic between big sister/little brother many times in my life. God has blessed our family three-fold: my wife Deb and her “little brother” Brett; our daughter Bess and her “little brother” Blake; and now our granddaughter Anna and her “little brother” Noah.
This sister/brother love is life-long. It is pure. And it is unconditional. What a gift God has bestowed on these sisters and brothers!
I firmly believe that Debbie is such a good mother because she learned ‘how-to’ on Brett. She was (and still is) in many ways his second mother. I’ve seen how she can comfort him and I’ve witnessed her heartbreak when he has dealt with dissapointment or sadness in his life. She celebrates his joys and supports him in all he does. SHE IS HIS ROCK. And I know too that Brett loves and cares for Deb equally and that they share a bond that is eternal.
From the time that our son Blake was born, his “big sister” Bess has been his guardian angel. She has protected him and cared for him from the start. Their love is something that only they can truly know. The rest of us can observe from the outside, but they seem to communicate on a level that is all their own. Even though they are ‘grown-ups’ now, Bess still worries about her “little brother” and Blake still seems to need her approval (or maybe it’s her affirmation) from time to time. When he was a little boy, she would comfort him if he was upset. And often she was the ONLY ONE that he wanted when sad or hurt. Blake was a freshman and Bess was a senior at the University of Wisconsin when Blake broke his jaw (there are some sketchy details on what actually caused the break). Bess flew to his side, helping him when Deb and I couldn’t be there. Of course, she wouldn’t have considered anything else. And Blake has been ‘ON CALL’ when his niece and nephew were born – he needed constant updates as to how Bess was doing. This “caring for one another” seems to be the cement that holds them together.
I see already how two-year-old Anna loves her “little brother”. The night that he was born, while he was being “cleaned up” in the hospital nursery, Anna and her Daddy, and I watched outside the nursery window (Mommy was ‘being put back together’). While we were witnessing Noah’s first few minutes of life, an old man that was a patient at the hospital was wheeled up to look at the babies. He asked Anna if that was her baby brother and of course she said yes. He then asked her if she thought he could get a baby brother, too. Her reply: “Yes but not this one – he’s mine!” In those first few moments, looking through the glass, she had claimed her “little brother”. And as tears welled up in my eyes I could only imagine how special their life together will be. Another big sister/little brother legacy was born. And once more I was blessed for having witnessed it.