I Must Have Done Something Good

There’s a song from the musical The Sound of Music with the line “somewhere in my youth or childhood, I must have done something good”. To be honest, I sometimes feel that way. I have received so much in this life that I don’t deserve; that I didn’t earn; that should have been given to someone more worthy. Loving children. Perfect grandchildren. Family and friends that have carried me along on my journey. A comfortable home. A career that I’m proud of. But mostly my beautiful wife.

Deb, “here I am standing here loving you, whether or not I should…”

My wife, my love, my life. We have defied all odds: married too young; too poor; under-educated; having children when we were barely adults ourselves; career disasters; job changes; money troubles; moving out of state and out the country and back again. And yet, here we are still together. Forever.

Your birthday seems like a perfect time to tell you what you mean to me. When I try to put it in to words it all seems too simple; too ordinary. I love you. The end. But it’s so much more that.

BirthdayNo one gets to me the way you do. No one can make me feel as passionate as you. No one can push me to the edge and then pull me back quite like you. No one lights up a room like you. No one can make me laugh at myself harder than you can. You have shared my happiest days and my moments of utter despair. You have held my hand as I have walked through good times and bad. You keep me grounded and you give me wings. I have witnessed your exquisite beauty, your kindness, your gentleness and your strength countless times and I am still in awe.

And you still do that thing to me that no one else can do: You make me want to be a better man. Thank you for loving me all these years.

I must have done something good…

Happy Birthday,


4 thoughts on “I Must Have Done Something Good

  1. That is truly the most awesome post! I am so happy for both of you. Denis, I am sure your words are the best gift she will ever receive. You are both truly blessed with your relationship. There are so many people that will never experience that kind of love and contentment.

    My best friend, the love of my life and the light of my world has now been gone for 4 months and 7 hours. Shortly before he died, he said to me “We are so lucky to have each other. People are very seldom happy together like we are” it was something he said often, but this time this so sick, dying man was talking about how lucky he was! If there is ever a time that you wonder if you can love someone too much, it is when they leave this earthly world. One thing we know for sure is we were also blessed …. and still are. He left us better people for having been in our lives. His happy, optimistic view on life is still with us. He wants us to be happy and appreciate every day.

    Denis, your posts make me wish I knew you better and could spend time with you and your awesome wife! Thank you so for your words!

    Happy Birthday Debi!

    Debbie Lappe

  2. Denis and Deb, I’m sure that you know how very Blessed to have found one another and you have been able to be with each other so long. Deb, I know you must have cried when you read this letter – I know I did!

    God Bless you for many more years together!

    Jane T

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