My niece Caprice is getting married in about 3 weeks. It seems like only yesterday that she was my little “Pee Wee” perched on my lap. But now she’s all grown up and ready to be a wife. She’s had a wedding shower and a bachelorette party and all the preparations have been made – the church, the music, the reception, etc. She and her fiance Jimmy are ready.
Ready for the wedding day. But are they ready for marriage? Who knows? Are any of us ever really ready? I know that they are “IN LOVE” and I know that they have met with their minister and that she has “prepared them”. But how much can you really “prepare” for marriage?
I remember a 150 years ago when Deb and I got married and we met with Father Gary Goldaker at Trinity Episcopal Church and he asked us lots of questions and we gave him lots of answers. And after no more than two meetings he then pronounced us “READY FOR MARRIAGE”. Thank God we had all the answers back then because it has made married life so easy! Of course a few years later we heard that Father Gary left the priesthood and was selling aluminum siding – so I guess our marriage has probably out-lasted some of that siding he sold (that stuff only has about a 25 year guarantee).
Caprice and Jimmy are older and (smarter?) than we were in 1975. And they have made good decisions up to this point so I’m guessing that they will have a marriage based on love and respect and equality. I also know that they have a family that will always love and support and even “carry them” when necessary. And if I could remember any of those answers from Gary Goldaker I would pass those on, too.
But now we’re all focused on THE WEDDING DAY. THE BRIDE AND THE GROOM. And that’s how it should be. Serious marriage stuff has been dealt with already and their life together will continue to be an ongoing journey of faith and discovery. Caprice and Jimmy have the rest of their lives to build their marriage.
So right now we’re looking forward to the Wedding Day and the party that is planned. I’m always reminded that Jesus’ first public miracle was The Wedding Feast at Cana. Even Jesus liked a good wedding reception. So we’re going to celebrate on November 6th. When Caprice comes down the aisle there will be smiles and tears (Deb cries at Hallmark® commercials) and once again I will have my faith in marriage renewed. And later at the reception I’ll dance like nobody is watching because I’ll bet Jesus did that after ‘The Wine Thing’.
Here comes the bride. Everybody please rise!
Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek its own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.